When I was a high flying finance lawyer in the City of London, I thought having it all was a pipedream. I didn’t realise it at the time, but this negative thinking about what it means to be a lawyer and how much control you have over your life, was the very thing that made me destined to fail. It was only after I walked away from a legal career when my second son was born that I realised my mistake: I’d been powerful all along. I just didn’t know it.